“At 74, I have never had such a fulfilling sex life.”
– Jane Fonda
Jane Fonda may sound too cool when she brags about enjoying sex well into her 70s. But why shouldn’t she enjoy it? Just because we’re over 50 are we supposed to suddenly lose interest? Pretend we no longer have sex, or want it?
Absolutely not! The truth is that sex can be even more amazing as we age, because . . . we’re at the top of our game! Think about it: you’re not worried about getting pregnant, you probably know what you like, and you’re not afraid to ask for it. You’re at that delicious stage of life where you can feel free to actually say — out loud — that you love sex and want more of it!
Sure you can live well and be happy without sex, and it might just be something you’re not interested in. But, if you are, sex is a lovely part of a healthy life. And if like me, you’ve lived most of your life being a bit more shy about sex than Ms. Fonda, well . . . get over it! It’s time, girlfriends, to reclaim a part of you that can be absolutely fantastic.
Besides, it’s good for you. Really good.
Here are just a few ways sex can help you have a healthier and happier life:
- Delivers Nitric Oxide: According to Christiane Northrup, a leading authority on women’s health, nitric oxide is one reason sex is so good for us. It’s released from the lining of our blood vessels during intercourse and orgasm, which increases blood flow to organs, reducing cellular inflammation. Inflammation can wreak all kinds of havoc in our bodies, and may contribute to cancer, heart disease, arthritis, Alzheimer’s, osteoporosis, and autoimmune disease.
- Makes you seriously happy: Arousal and orgasm help to increase oxytocin (the feel-good hormone) and decrease cortisol (the stress hormone). A fun way to get to your happy place, no?
- You’ll look and feel younger: Researchers in Scotland discovered that people who have sex around three times a week actually look and feel younger, due to hormones like estrogen and oxytocin that are released during sex–and they probably take better care of themselves, too.
- Blood flows to all the right places: Sexual arousal and orgasm cause blood to flow to the vaginal walls, making them more lubricated and elastic. You may need a little extra help from prescription or over-the-counter lubricants to help pave the way, but have a sex a few times a week will definitely keep things flowing along.
- Life with your partner will be nicer: Couples who touch each other more frequently–it doesn’t have to be intercourse–tend to report higher marital satisfaction than those who do not, even after many years of being together.
- Helps with headaches: Studies show the pain of headaches–even migraines–can be lessened by having an orgasm. Our blood pressure drops after sex, which can reduce tension headaches, and the endorphins triggered b orgasm are powerful natural painkillers.
- Lowers blood pressure. It’s not just arousal or orgasm, but actual active sexual intercourse, which offers a nice burst of aerobic exercise, helping to lower blood pressure.
- It will leave you wanting more. The more sex you have, the more you want it, kind of like french fries (but lower in calories). So if it’s been a while, then it’s time to talk to your partner about how to get things started again.
Keep in mind that you don’t need a partner to have sex. Just bring out your favorite toy and get healthier and happier!
For science-backed tips on how to get sex back into your life . . . pick up a copy of my new book (Love Your Age: The Small-Step Solution to a Better, Longer, Happier Life) and turn to Ch. 6 — “Better Living Through Better Sex”. Can’t wait another minute?